Being a Good Example (Men)
1 Timothy 4:6-16
Verse 12 Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, whereunto thou art also called, and hast professed a good profession before many witnesses.
“A couple in their early forties had three children of their own when the Lord led them to take in four foster children, all less than four years old. A month later, the woman found out she was pregnant! Over the next few years, with their house bulging and their budget straining, they discovered that their situation was an encouragement to the other families in their church, who could look at them and say, ‘And we think we have problems!’ They were a vivid example of joyfully following Christ’s leading, even when it’s difficult. They always seemed to have a smile, and said they would do it all again if given a chance.”
“Joyfully following Jesus the Lord, and trusting His lead every day makes us examples that others can see, to follow when trials come their way.” Daily Bread August 6, 1998
God requires both the husband and the wife to set proper biblical examples in marriage because a godly example is worth more than a thousand words. As the day of salvation is the beginning of our daily walk with God, so the wedding ceremony is the beginning of building a Christian family for God’s glory.
There are five important areas in which husbands and fathers should teach young men to be good examples so that they, too, may wait for God’s best.
EXAMPLE IN MANLINESS
That is, having qualities generally attributed to a real man:
Joshua 1:9 Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed.
2 Timothy 1:7 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
1 Peter 5:8-9 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour: Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in your brethren that are in the world.
- Manly characteristics.
- Manly character.
- Manly completion.
That is, teaching him to work hard and finish each task at hand.
EXAMPLE IN MANNERS
- To be courteous and respectful.
I believe children need to be taught to respect others’ property, and then perhaps they will respect their own. When a child makes a request, it should always include please, “May I please,” etc. When they respond with “Thank you,” “yes, ma’am,” and “yes sir,” they ought to be commended.
Colossians 3:17 And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.
- To be kind and forgiving.
Ephesians 4:32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
EXAMPLE IN MORALS
God knows we need morality in our society today. With the lack of examples in our government and other institutions, Christians must work especially hard to teach their children to practice morality. One need only look at what the devil has done to fight morality in our country to see the terrible results. Morality has to do with conforming to standards with what is right and just in behavior, but it also has to do with that which is virtuous.
Psalm 119:9-11 Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word. With my whole heart have I sought thee: O let me not wander from thy commandments. Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.
- Morals are to be based on the new birth.
2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
- Morals are manifested by the Spirit.
Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance:
- Morals come from the heart
Hebrews 8:10 For this is the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel after those days, saith the Lord; I will put my laws into their mind, and write them in their hearts: and I will be to them a God, and they shall be to me a people:
Philippians 3:7-10 But what things were gain to me, those I counted loss for Christ. Yea doubtless, and I count all things but loss for the excellency of the knowledge of Christ Jesus my Lord: for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and do count them but dung, that I may win Christ, And be found in him, not having mine own righteousness, which is of the law, but that which is through the faith of Christ, the righteousness which is of God by faith: That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death;
EXAMPLE WITH MONEY
Ecclesiastes 5:10 He that loveth silver shall not be satisfied with silver; nor he that loveth abundance with increase: this is also vanity.
The Bible says in 1 Timothy 6:10 For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.
Great will be the disappointment to a young man if he centers his life on making money. The only reasons for money are to make a living, support God’s work, and support one’s family.
EXAMPLE IN MARRIAGE
Much heartache could be avoided if young people would wait for God’s best concerning who they should marry.
2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
Genesis 26:34-35 And Esau was forty years old when he took to wife Judith the daughter of Beeri the Hittite, and Bashemath the daughter of Elon the Hittite: Which were a grief of mind unto Isaac and to Rebekah.
When Esau married outside of the will of God and his parents it was a grief of mind to Isaac and Rebekah.
Just as the aged or spiritual men are to have godly characteristics to teach the younger men, so likewise the aged (spiritually mature) women should be good examples in godly living to the younger women.
FROM THE BOOK, “BUILDING BLOCKS FOR CHRISTIAN FAMILIES” BY DR. NIKOLEY
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