We have a twisted understanding of what a friendship really is. The Bible says, “give and it shall be given unto you.”
Why don’t we have more friends than we do? Could it be that we fear rejection of the one we are trying to befriend?
There are some who are “servants” and others are “friends” to Jesus. Here is what I am saying, “You commit yourself to the other person unconditionally until the end.” John 13:1.
It was unconditional love whereby He committed Himself unto them. That means we must accept all faults and failures of our friends.
- This kind commands confrontation.
Proverbs 27:5, “Open rebuke is better than secret love.”
“A friend is one who warns you.” Old Jewish proverb.
Some people make enemies instead of friends because it is less trouble. Mckenzie.
This is a friendship that cares enough to confront and is willing to correct a brother who has fallen by the wayside. Your concern is strong enough to want to help.
Don’t broadcast all your faults but learn to keep them to yourself. Use some discretion, because you don’t have to tell all your sin.
Provers 17:9, “He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separateth very friends.”
Proverbs 16:28, “A froward man soweth strife: and a whisperer separateth chief friends.”
A true friend will confront you in a loving way in the right spirit. Sometimes we need to be “faithfully wounded.”
A devoted friend will confront you to your face and if he is not sincere; it will soon show. The Holy Spirit will bear witness.
A true “friend” COMMITS and CONFRONTS.
We may not always agree, but we can all be loyal one to another. Even the humanists are loyal to their cause as well as to each other.
- It involves sustaining the relationship.
In other words, you are more concerned about being a friend than having a friend.
But you say, “nobody likes me or nobody wants me for a friend.” Be more concerned about being a friend, because a friend is concerned about being a friend rather than having a friend. If we will learn to be a friend we will never run out of friendships.
- It involves sacrifice to keep the relationship.
Say, “I am your friend and you are going to have to live with that.”
Our opinion of people depends less upon what we see in them than upon what they make us see in ourselves. Sarah Grand.
Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing. B. Franklin.
Let’s be a biblical friend to somebody today.