I believe the first thing we must recognize that there is or has been some bitterness in our heart. Another important thing is that bitterness will rarely admit it to another. So, don’t bother telling or asking someone if they are bitter, because they will probably deny it.
A bitter person may say, “I just want what I deserve out of life,” or I want to be treated like any other human being.” Those feelings may not be necessarily wrong, but why not look at it this way. If I get what I deserved I would be in hell. Or, if I got what I deserved I probably would not have much. Why not be thankful for what you do have.
Somebody in the family has to try to keep oneness in the family or group or church. Have you made the statement, “He makes me angry” (mad) or “it’s all her fault?”
No one can make you angry. You make yourself angry. That does not mean that anger is always a sin. Sometimes it is of God: Example, we ought to get angry at sin and the devil, never at a person. So, how do we deal with bitterness of heart?
I. RECOGNIZE THE FACT THAT THERE IS BITTERNESS IN YOUR HEART.